One thing that is helping me figure it out though is the book I recommended in my other post about self deception.. If you can put yourself in the other persons shoes, it starts to become easier. I guess it is a but like starting any habit.. It takes a while before it becomes second nature.

Kind of like remembering to follow the principles of animation. At first you don’t think aboutthem so animation doesn’t seem that tough.. Then you learn about them andnsuddenly it’s daunting.. Then with practice they become second nature.

The trick though.. is being aware that you might be causing crazy consequences, no? While I think what you are saying is true and good to remember, I’m not sure how you can be aware of your actions and intent and how others are taking it.. 100 percent of the time. If you are constantly watching what you say and how you say it (or what you do and how you do it) then how are you not going to become a basket case constantly worrying about how people are reacting to you?

And yes.. these posts are helpful. At least, to me. It’s always awesome to think about this stuff.